“Unrealistic people accomplish the unreal.” -Cam F Awesome
Yup. Starting my blog out by quoting myself.
Lie to yourself. I lie to myself all the time. I live in a delusional world where my abilities are unlimited. I am only capable of what I believe.
A person can only accomplish what they believe they can. Therefore, every person should lie to themselves until they believe it. Believe it as absolute truth.
Some will say that they believe in themselves. They say it, but don’t actually believe it. This is the reason most people don’t ever take that leap of faith towards their goal. Faith is belief without evidence.
There is no way for me to prove that I am the best without competing against the best. I will never be able to beat the best if I am not the best. I have faith that I am the best.
A person cannot fly without taking that leap. Many don’t take the leap, they are afraid they can’t actually fly. I call this “the fear of failure.” The consequence of taking that leap to fly, and not being able to fly, is a scary fall.
The equation of your success is simple: (Belief in yourself) – (fear of failure) = (level of success)
When you witness an athlete accomplish an ungodly, amazing feat and they are disappointed in themselves, it’s because they believed they could have done better. For example, when Usain Bolt wins a race and takes gold, but isn’t happy with his performance, it’s difficult for realistic thinkers to understand.
The best example of this is Shakur Stevenson. He lost a competitive boxing match in the finals of the 2016 Olympics. Shakur described winning a silver medal as the saddest moment of his life. Most people would give a limb for the opportunity to have qualified for the Olympics, yet alone, earn a silver medal.
This is because Shakur gave more than a limb. He gave his heart. He told himself that he would win a gold medal, and he, unlike most people, actually believed it.
Shakur set his goal at the highest possible point and fell just short. This is where the consequence of zero failure comes into play. If Shakur’s goal was to only qualify for the Olympics, he probably wouldn’t have won any medal, but wouldn’t have had to deal with that heartbreak.
The boxer that sets his goal to win a state championship rarely wins that state championship. He will lose that state championship to the boxer who set his goal to win the regional championship. This boxer will consistently win the state championship, before losing the regional championship to the boxer who set his goal on winning the national championship.
It is the boxer who set his goal on winning the national championship who will lose to the boxer striving to qualify for the Olympics. The boxer with Olympic dreams will eventually lose to the boxer with aspirations of a gold medal.
The more you believe in yourself, the bigger the goals you will set. The bigger you set your goal, the more you will accomplish.
At some point, Shakur lied to himself. He told himself he was the best. He said it until he believed it. He said it until others believed it. It was an absolute truth to him.
Losing in the Olympic finals match probably came as a shock to Shakur because he believed that he was the best. He would have never made it as far as he did if he hadn’t lied to himself. Shakur has since moved on to the pro ranks and, if given the opportunity, I’m sure he will fight the current champion. In Shakur’s head, it is the absolute truth that he is the best.
Some boxers lie to themselves in the opposite direction. They are usually gym rats or professional sparring partners. In the gym they are invincible, but when it comes to an actual fight, they never perform as well. This is because they don’t believe in themselves; therefore they crack under the pressure of the lights.
I have lied to myself so much that I am not sure what I am capable of, but I know what I think I’m capable of: everything and anything. The problem with having 100% belief, and having 0% fear of failure, is the heartbreak and consequence of failing.
Don’t chase a dream if you aren’t willing to deal with the consequence of not catching it.
Believe that you are great, while believing you can get better.
Cam F Awesome
(Editor: Missy Fitzwater)